I felt like to adequately respond to the wonderful responses I got from the "Real" post, I needed to blog. The comment box is just not big enough.
I think I may have touched a nerve with this one. Not in a "what you talkin' bout, Willis?" way, but a "I struggle with that too" way. I think we all struggle with being "real". I know, atleast, that the three people who live(d) in my home dealt with it, and if we are the "norm" in any way (hehe, I know Sarah, we are not normal people) then it must be wide-spread. Why is this I wonder? Part of me thinks that it was my Southern-upbringin. I know, it sounds like I'm blaming, but come on guys/gals. Most of you were raised the way I was, and we were taught to be good Southern Ladies who don't cause a "stir".
I was just telling John how tired it made me to be a pastor's wife. To know that my personality is to go into a room, find the 2/3 people I'm close to, talk to them and sit in the back while I worship. As a "pastor's wife", I entered the room, "talked" to everyone I could (while not actually "talking" to anyone), smiled for 3 hours, and said "yes" to things I shouldn't have. I came home tired, with a hurting face, every Sunday because I was not being "me". Alot of this comes from the Southern-upbringing thing, I think. A good "Christian" lady, especially a Pastor's Wife, would do what I did. But would I? I think it is telling that Rach wrote what she did in the comment section, she's Canadian! I think she said exactly what we all do, we "sell" Jesus with either our perfectness or our brokenness, whichever is appropriate to the situation.
Megan, you're right. There are black and white areas where we should DEFINATELY stand up, and there are gray areas where we are convicted about something that doesn't necessarily mean the whole world should be. Case in point: I was obsessed with "America's Next Top Model" for a while. My husband finally told me that, as a man, he could not watch this show. So, my choices were to banish my husband from the room for an hour (we have a small apartment), or stop watching. The show did not bother ME, it was not MY conviction, but in order not to hurt my husband I stopped. Gray area? I know others who watch the show, I do not think they are bad Christians for it.
But sometimes I think we blur the lines a bit. Here comes the "stepping on toes" part...... Is watching "Desperate Housewives" a gray area? The show promotes as funny adultery, pre-marital sex, bad parenting, the list could go on and on. I haven't even watched the show (uh oh), I just get this all from the commercials! I don't think God is up there with a clipboard in his hand checking boxes "Yep, she watched Desperate Housewives this week, she gets and X", but I think he's concerned with what we fill our minds with. So is this gray?
Mrs. Kathy, I do need some teaching time. I wish you were here to sit with me and hash out this stuff, I remember your back porch and the great talks there. I wish I had a "Mrs. Kathy" while here in Canada. You are right, the Monk still has anger issues, but that's one of the things I like about reading him. I know that sounds strange, but it adds to his ability to be "real". He's hashing out his crap on the world wide web for all of us to see, I think that takes guts.
Chris, did you know what pulchritudinous meant before you looked it up on dictionary.com?