If you are married, what do you wish someone would have taught you BEFORE you got married?
You see, I'm about to start a discipleship group with about five newlywed/engaged women and we're going to do some intensive "What does it mean to be a wife?" study. I have several scriptures and ideas of what to delve in to, but I would love some feedback from real husbands and wives of what they wish they (or their wives, but NICELY please...) would have been discipled in beforehand.
You can comment here, or if it's more personal and you don't want to share with the world (I keep secrets!!!) then email me at amyschaffner@cox.net.And now for the OTHER reason you're here, the link-up!!! How's your week been? I'm going to start again soon featuring one blogger a week, I've just been so swamped I haven't been able to write the posts with the links. I do read your link-ups though, and I LOVE them!
I linked up my answer to your question about marriage. Something I wrote about on my blog.
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My aunt gave me some great advice -- enjoy the little, everyday things, because that's what makes up marriage (and life!). Thanks for the great post & for hosting the linkup, & God bless!
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I would tell them not to interrupt their husbands, to choose their battles, to agree to disagree, and that not everything is worth an argument. I would tell them that martial counseling is better sooner than later, that there's no perfect time to have kids, and not to compare themselves to other couples. I could go on and on! :) I'd love to guest post one day if you need more guest bloggers! Love your blog and your dedication to being a great homeschool mama! Blessings, Lauren, lholmes79.wordpress.com
ReplyDeleteI wish someone had told me and my husband not to read so many "marriage" and "sex" books. We were young and we thought we were preparing, but we were really setting an impossible standard to live up to. After all, if it wasn't correct why was it in a book?????
ReplyDeleteAnyway, lots of unmet expectations were the result and 23 years in it ended...
Spend more time seeking the Lord and less time reading books about it.
Be kind. It's not all about you anymore.
ReplyDeleteFigure out his love language and concentrate on loving him rather than loving simply to get loved. Find out how to show him respect and never speak ill of him to others. If you want to vent to a friend and prayer just isn't doing it for you. Confide in one friend and ask her to pray for you. After all, you chose him. If he's an idiot then you're an idiot for chosing him and you're not an idiot.
Submission and the true meaning of the word. To submit simply means I choose to follow. In every well oiled organization there is a leader, someone who count the cost, look at the pitfalls and then make a choice and the others follow. It produce fruit and success.
ReplyDeleteIn choosing to follow I protect my leader, I built him up, because I know that He is called to protect and love me. It is not being a slave. It is not loosing my identity or voice. That is what being one (unity) means.
Amy thank you for such a post. My marriage life is just three years old and I am still enjoying. It's a relation of love and faith.
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